First, a “homework assignment”:
A) Watch these two video podcasts on YouTube:
1) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyBM8LR96xw
2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TY1HMrTOa5k
B) Read these articles:
1) https://negromanosphere.com/why-men-want-true-love/
2) https://negromanosphere.com/womens-sexual-companionship-exclusively/
3) https://negromanosphere.com/casual-sex/
Done watching the two videos? Finished reading the three articles? Good. Thank you. Let’s continue . . .
A RECENT CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN
Below is a slightly paraphrased transcript of a conversation I had with a woman approximately two weeks ago.
Woman: Well, I have to let you know Alan … jumping into bed with a man soon after I meet him … without him taking the time to get to know me first … is not really my thing.
Alan: Well, similarly … I have to let you know … treating a woman to a free lunch or a free dinner … without her agreeing to engage in sexual relations with me first … is not really my thing.
Woman: I refuse to be ‘used’ and taken advantage of sexually
Alan: I refuse to be ‘used’ and taken advantage of non-sexually
Woman: (laughs) Alan, that is ridiculous. How can a woman ‘use’ a man non-sexually?
Alan: Is that a real question?
Woman: (giggles) It sure is! I mean, you could have sex with me … and then just go ‘ghost’ on me. You could get what you want … and then choose to totally ignore me and never speak to me again
Alan: (chuckles) Surely, you jest. You seem to be very one-sided in your thinking
Woman: How so Mr. Currie?
Alan: I mean, you could just allow me to treat you to lunch and/or dinner … and then just go ‘ghost’ on me as well. You could enjoy a lengthy, flattering and entertaining conversation with me … and then choose to totally ignore me and never speak to me again
Woman: Well, in my opinion, it’s not really the same thing. I don’t really do casual sex
Alan: It very much is the same thing. And just for the record … I don’t really do purely platonic friendships
Woman: What’s wrong with spending time with a woman without sex being involved? Men do this all the time!
Alan: What’s wrong with spending time with a man sexually without a lunch date or dinner date being involved? Women do this all the time. Trust me on this
Woman: Women who immediately jump into bed with a man that they just met are sluts. They are hos (whores)
Alan: Men who immediately offer to treat a woman to a free meal are financially generous non-sexual ‘sluts.’ They are simps
Woman: If you say so
Alan: I say so
If you did not learn anything else from this conversation of mine, you should have learned at least two things:
1) The vast majority of women want free, quick, and easy access to men’s non-sexual time, attention, and companionship … but they want men to invest a significant amount of time, effort, and even money into pursuing them before they give a man access to their sexual companionship
2) I will not allow women to get away with hypocritical behavior. I always let women know: I place just as much value on my non-sexual time, attention, and companionship as women place on their sexual time, attention, and companionship
SPEAKING OF SEXUAL COMPANIONSHIP vs. NON-SEXUAL COMPANIONSHIP
If you took time to watch those two video podcasts of mine that I recommended, you know that the primary theme of each was evaluating the desirability and appeal of women’s sexual companionship vs. their non-sexual companionship.
Let me ask you: When you think about spending time with a woman … what do you find appealing about her companionship other than the prospect of experiencing sexual enjoyment and satisfaction with her?
SURVEY for MEN: 1000 POINTS TO BE DISTRIBUTED OVER TEN (10) ATTRIBUTES
If you have some time, I would like you to participate in an informal survey of mine.
I am going to give each male reader of this article one-thousand (1,000) points to be distributed over ten (10) desirable attributes. You must use a bare minimum of eleven (11) points for each of the ten attributes … and the maximum number of points that can be allocated to any one attribute is nine-hundred (900) points.
Ready? Set? You can begin!
ATTRIBUTE #1: A WOMAN’S OVERALL PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, PERSONAL HYGIENE, and GROOMING
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #2: A WOMAN’S DESIRE TO REMAIN FAITHFULLY and STRICTLY MONOGAMOUS TO YOU SEXUALLY INDEFINITELY
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #3: A WOMAN’S OVERALL LEVEL OF INTELLIGENCE, ‘STREET SMARTS,’ and/or FORMAL EDUCATION
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #4: A WOMAN’S LEVEL OF CAREER SUCCESS and/or FINANCIAL SUCCESS
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #5: A WOMAN’S WILLINGNESS TO GIVE BIRTH TO ONE OR MORE CHILDREN FOR YOU and HER OVERALL MATERNAL INSTINCTS & QUALIFICATIONS TO BE A GOOD MOTHER TO YOUR SON(S) and/or DAUGHTER(S)
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #6: A WOMAN’S DEGREE OF KINKINESS and HER LEVEL OF EROTIC OBEDIENCE & SUBMISSIVENESS IN THE BEDROOM
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #7: A WOMAN’S ABILITY TO MAINTAIN AN ENTERTAINING and INTERESTING CONVERSATION WITH YOU
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #8: A WOMAN’S DEGREE OF CLASS, SOCIAL REFINEMENT, and ABSENCE OF ANY SORT OF ‘PROMISCUOUS PAST’ (i.e., SHE HAD NO REPUTATION FOR BEING A ‘SLUT’ WITH MULTIPLE MALE SEX PARTNERS PRIOR TO DATING YOU)
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #9: A WOMAN’S WILLINGNESS TO COOK FOR YOU and KEEP YOUR PLACE OF RESIDENCE CLEAN & ORGANIZED
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
ATTRIBUTE #10: A WOMAN’S LEVEL OF HONESTY, MORAL CHARACTER, and OVERALL INTEGRITY
POINTS ALLOCATED for this particular ATTRIBUTE: _____________________________
Remember: Each of the ten attributes must be allocated a bare minimum of eleven (11) points each, and no one attribute can be allocated more than nine-hundred (900) points. Also, don’t take the ‘easy way out’ and simply allocate each of the ten attributes one-hundred (100) points each. If you choose to do that, it would totally defeat the purpose of identifying which of the attributes is most important to you in a (long-term) female companion … and which of the attributes is least important to you in a (long-term) female companion.
If you want to share your survey results publicly, please do so below (either via Facebook or DISQUS). If you want to share your results privately with me, send them to coaching@modeone.net
Thank you for your participation!
Note: Columnist Alan Roger Currie will not have a published article posted on the following dates due to his travel schedule and/or vacation plans:
- Monday, December 24, 2018
- Monday, December 31, 2018
- Monday, January 7, 2019
Senior writer Alan Roger Currie was recently named the 2017 Charles Tyler Freelance Writer & Columnist of the Year for the NegroManosphere.com, and he was also named the NegroManosphere.com’s 2017 Best Dating Coach for Men on YouTube and 2017 Black Male YouTube Personality of the Year. More about Alan Roger Currie can be found on Wikipedia.org; Visit Currie’s main website to find out more about his Email consultations, Skype & Telephone consultations, and One-on-One / Face-to-Face Coaching sessions. Currie also has an active YouTube channel where he offers his own unique brand of knowledge, wisdom, insight, and general advice related to dating and relationships. If you are a single heterosexual man, and you want advice on how to develop the confidence and courage to be more upfront, specific and straightforwardly honest about your sexual desires, interests, and intentions with women, check out Currie’s eBooks, paperbacks, and audiobooks. Currie has been a featured speaker at many dating advice workshops for men in the United States as well as internationally. Currie was the first African-American to be a featured speaker at The 21 Convention and was a featured speaker for the second time on Saturday, October 13, 2018 in Orlando, Florida. If you want to become a Patreon.com subscriber of Dating Coach Alan Roger Currie, CLICK HERE
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