The mentality that misfortune will befall people because they didn’t help you should be totally abolished. It is satanic. The thought that people who didn’t help you today will come back to beg from you tomorrow should be trashed in the waste basket. You need to stop deceiving yourself that in the future, you will be better than those who didn’t help you today. It is a lie. You may be stagnant.

Accept life as it comes and work to make things better for yourself. Just as you have the right to choose whether to help people or not, other people have the right to choose whether to help you or not. And it is okay. Being helped by people is not a right. It is a privilege. You shouldn’t feel entitled. Nobody is obligated to help you, just as you are not obligated to help anyone. People won’t stop progressing because you hate them for not helping you.

God won’t stop blessing people because you are not happy with them for not helping you. Your anger can’t stop people’s blessings. In fact, your negative energy towards them may end up killing you like cancer. People will be fine if they didn’t help you or support you in time of need. They won’t die. They won’t be sick. They won’t lose money. They won’t have accident. They won’t go broke. I think we need to learn how to embrace NO from other people.

We need to accept that people will disappoint us sometimes, deliberately or indelibertaely. We need to understand that people are not in the world because of us. That the world doesn’t revolve around us. We need to know that people have their personal dreams to pursue and goals to achieve. We need to understand that people won’t always say YES to all our requests. We need to face reality and move on with life. Smoothly.

People have their problems to solve. They won’t leave their problems unsolved to help you solve your own. They won’t carry your problems on their heads like a tray of Nigerian gala and neglect their own. Everyone has their demons. They won’t stop fighting their demons to help you fight your own. Just as Jesus Christ carried his cross, all of us must learn to carry our crosses without complaining, blaming or guilt tripping people.

If people walk away from your life, let them go. They probably need some freedom or they want someone better. The fact that they walk away from your life doesn’t mean they won’t find someone better than you. There are over seven billion people in the world. That they walked out of your life doesn’t mean something bad will happen to them. It is even possible you are the one slowing down their progress.

We just need to understand that sometimes, the things we want may not want us. The people we want may not want us. The relationship we want may not want us. And that is okay. People will be fine without us. They will live well and smile and be happy. It could be painful to expect help from people and not get it. It could be painful to love someone and not be loved in return. It happens. It is part of life. The world won’t come to an end because your requests are not met.

It is the responsibility of every man to work hard to give himself a better and comfortable life.
Every man must work out his own salvation by himself. Your life is not the responsibility of your friends. It is not the responsibility of your boss at work. It is not the responsibility of your uncles and aunts and cousins and nephews. You are the creator of your own destiny. No one owes you anything. You must work hard to give yourself the life you want.

Don’t hate people because they refuse to give you what you want. Your hatred towards people won’t stop God from blessing them. That you are unhappy with someone doesn’t mean God will be unhappy with them. It is okay to expect support from people, but just as you have your needs, people have their own as well. It is important to hold yourself accountable to achieve your goals and make yourself happy.

Your happiness is nobody’s responsibility but yours. Nobody cares about you. We all care about our own lives. And it is not that we hate you or that we are wicked. It is just that we care about ourselves more than anything else. We have our own dreams. We have our own goals. We have our own plans. We have our own troubles and challenges and frustrations. We can only come to help you kill your demons when we are done killing our own.